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How to answer "So, What do you do?" without being awkward!


Person: So what do you do?

You: I am an engineer.

Person: …. Oh, that’s great.

You: thanks.

Person: …..

You: So what do you do?

Person: Ohh, I am a Doctor

You: Doctor is great!!

Person: ….


Does this conversation sound familiar? Do you also run into a dead-end when the question “So what do you do?” comes up?  This will be a short blog where I will give you a template that you can follow while answering this question in a non-generic way so that the answer to the question about your occupation leads to a better conversation.

To answer this question, you must divide your answer into three parts as follows:

1.    Who do you it for?

2.    What do your clients/customers want or need?

3.    How does it change/transform their lives?


There you have it, the template. You do not need to answer these questions in any specific order just to try to answer as many of these three. Now, let us elaborate on each question a little.


Who do you do it for?

This would include the name of the person that you are helping/making-better by doing what you do. 


What do your clients/customers want or need?

This would include the needs of the person. For example, if you are a doctor, your client/customer needs to diagnose/treat their mental/physical problems.


How does it change/transform their lives?

This section would include how your work transforms the lives of your clients. If you are a doctor, your work helps people live healthy/pain-free lives.

The blog is basically over here and you can peace out if you want to but if you want to read a few examples of this template in work then keep on reading.


Kindergarten Teacher:

I help very young children socialize with each other. I also help them to discover their interests and nurture them to grow and utilize their full potential.

(The person will be like “😲 Seriously, what do you do?” Then you can laugh it off by saying that you are a kindergarten teacher. This will not only set a friendly tone, but the other person will also try to answer your question of “and what do you do?” similarly.)


Marriage Counsellor:

I help couples who have somehow lost the touch in their relationship get close again. I help them discuss the hiccups/insecurities that they face in their relationship and overcome them. Basically, I save marriages.


Software Engineer:

I help my clients to reach their firm's full potential by utilizing the power of the internet and computers.


If you want more blogs like these, let me know in the comment section down below. Also, let me know your opinion on this and your template too (if you use any).




  1. Do u have any template for a job-less engineer?

    1. I am a jobless engineer XD. Jobless engineers don't need a template, they need magic.


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